So, this one might end up fairly controversial (especially considering my point of view), so I’d like to make it absolutely clear that I do not condone rape, nor do I believe that that or any related crime should be something that you have to expect.
But what I wanted to talk about is the way some girls (and even some women) dress. The way guys dress is something else entirely, and I may take up that challenge another day, but today I’m focusing on just the females. Sorry, ladies.
Now here’s the thing. I’ll be the first to tell you I love to look at a girl who’s barely wearing any clothes (ie: low-cut t-shirt that shows the stomach and as much cleavage as they’ve got, and shorts that barely even cover their ass). The female body is a wonderfully beautiful thing, and who can blame a single guy for looking? And besides which, let’s be honest, there’s really only one reason you’d dress that skimpy, and it is to be looked at. To be the one that everyone’s focused on, whether it be for good (damn that girl’s hot) or bad reasons (who the hell does she think she is to wear that?).
And it’s wrong to say that a girl is asking to be raped if she dresses that way. And she also shouldn’t have to worry about it. But the simple fact is that people like that are out there. Not everyone will look and not touch like me. Some might just be waiting for it to get a little darker and a little less crowded. The sad fact of the matter is that you do need to expect it, because it’s a very real possibility.
But if you’re an adult and you want to dress like a ten cent hooker from the shadiest part of town, then go for it. You’re fully capable of making your own decisions. And you know what? Even if you’re only 17 or 18, then fine. Still not totally okay, but at that age, I can totally understand the need to impress boyfriends, make their friends jealous, and generally be the centre of attention. And at least you’re close to being an adult. You’re better off learning those lessons early on. But if you’re 12 or 13, like I’ve seen so many times I’ve lost count (not that I was ever counting to begin with, thank god), it’s just not right. At all. For any reason. Your body isn’t even developed enough to fill out those kinds of outfits anyway. What the hell are you thinking?
For that matter, what the hell are your parents thinking, letting you wear that? Or in some cases I would imagine even encouraging you to. And that’s just a sign of bad parenting, which I’m sure over time will become the most talked about topic on this blog, as time goes on.
But the fact of the matter is, you may not be asking to be raped, but you’re certainly not doing anything to discourage it. And you do need to expect it, because (and I’m ashamed to be a part of this gender sometimes for these very reasons) guys like that do exist. So just be careful out there, and maybe dress just a little bit less like Miley Cyrus at an awards ceremony. Please. Don’t be like that. Ever.